DATING LIKE A BOSS

CHAPTER 12

SAFETY AND SMART STRATEGIES FOR FIRST DATES

When engaging in Christian dating, safety and smart strategies on first dates are essential to honor both personal well-being and faith values.

key points to consider for a safe and meaningful first date in a Christian context:

1. Choose a public venue and inform Someone
Opt for a well-populated, public place for your first date to ensure safety and comfort. Let a trusted friend or family member know your plans including details like the location, time, and the person you'll be meeting. These days many people have become victims of human trafficking. You are guarding yourself by sharing your plans and intentions with those you believe respect your values.

2. Keep it short and low-pressure
Arrange for a date that lasts about an hour to avoid feeling stuck if things are awkward. Keep the date light and simple, focusing on getting to know each other without too much pressure for immediate commitment or heavy topics.

3. Dress comfortably and confidently
Wear something that makes you feel comfortable, attractive, and confident not something that might cause discomfort or distraction. How you feel about yourself is revealed by the words that come out of your mouth, the bible says in the abundance of the heart the mouth speaketh, in this case the heart is the mind. What you think and how you think is tagged to your words.

4. Engage in meaningful conversation and listen well
Ask thoughtful questions that reveal passions, values, and faith. Examples include: 'What are you passionate about?' 'What has God been teaching you recently?' and 'What's your family like?' Actively listen to your date's answers and engage genuinely. We learn more when we listen. Listening skill is a necessity for growth.

5. Discuss faith openly
Christian dating encourages talking about faith and beliefs early on to ensure spiritual compatibility. It's important to understand where each person stands in their relationship with God to be equally yoked. In my case, when I met Celiwe (my wife) I had to test depth of the word. Among other things I wanted to know about her was her favourite verse. She gave me Matthew 5:14 You are the light of the world - like a city on a mountain, glowing in the night for all to see. That verse was a green light to me, in my heart I said "Game over!!!". A strong relationship is built upon the Rock Christ Himself. As you engage in conversation you have to feel the kick of the baby inside (chemistry). If that person is calibrated for you there will be signs and you will definately feel that.

6. Maintain physical and emotional boundaries
Set clear boundaries before and during the date, maintaining respect for your values. Avoid physical intimacy on the first date as a way to honor purity and build a foundation of trust and respect. Remember first impressions last, if you rush for physical intimacy you create a negative narrative about yourself, you may be regarded as someone who is loose and observe no standards. Don't disqualify yourself by misconconduct.

7. Be intentional and reflective
Have a prayerful attitude before, during, and after the date. Be intentional about how you pursue the relationship and take time to reflect and seek God's guidance after the date. Do not ignore red flags.

8. Trust your instincts and prioritize your safety
If anything feels off or uncomfortable, don't hesitate to remove yourself from the situation. Your safety and well-being should always come first. You are dating because you are alive and well, so put your safety on top of the list.

9. Allow chivalry and gentleness
Let the guy show chivalry if he is interested - opening doors, walking you to your car, or picking up the check-as this can help build confidence and show respect. If you are meeting in a restaurant as a lady be willing to pay your bill unless he says the bill is on me.
By following these principles, Christian singles can navigate first dates with confidence, safety, respect, and a clear focus on building a relationship grounded in faith and mutual care.

DATING LIKE A BOSS!!!

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Relationships should be marked by purity and mutual respect, as outlined in 1 Timothy 5:1-2