DATING LIKE A BOSS

CHAPTER 1

MINDSET SHIFT
Owning your dating journey

Mindset shift: Owning your dating journey
Introduction: What Does Owning your dating journey mean
Owning your dating journey means taking personal responsibility for your experience in the dating world. Rather than leaving outcomes to luck or the actions of others, you become the driving force in shaping how you approach relationships, deal with challenges, and define success for yourself. You are responsible for your future. if there is anything that you can tune or change is your Mindset. A mind is shiftable, you can stretch it and modify it. The way you perceive things and people is dependant on the way you think. You can build the future you want, you can build the family, you can have your dream family - all begins in the way you think.

Your mindset is everything in dating
Your mindset determines the energy you bring to every interaction, you interact with people based on the person you have become, you transform your relationships by observing the energy around you. Who speaks to your life? Who rebukes you? Who aligns you?

The Word of God over the years has been provern to be a solid foundation as enshrined in the book of 2 Timothy 4:
1 In the presence of God and of Christ Jesus, who will judge the living and the dead, and in view of his appearing and his kingdom, I give you this charge:
2 Preach the word; be prepared in season and out of season; correct, rebuke and encourage - with great patience and careful instruction.
3 For the time will come when people will not put up with sound doctrine. Instead, to suit their own desires, they will gather around them a great number of teachers to say what their itching ears want to hear.
4 They will turn their ears away from the truth and turn aside to myths.
5 But you, keep your head in all situations, endure hardship, do the work of an evangelist, discharge all the duties of your ministry.
6 For I am already being poured out like a drink offering, and the time for my departure is near.

Common mindset traps in dating

External validation
Relying entirely on others' approval for your sense of worth. Listen, you were made in the image of God, as recorded in Genesis 1:27. See yourself the way God sees you. You were fearfully and wonderfully made.

Scarcity mindset
Believing that love or good partners are rare, which can lead to desperation or settling for less. Never build a relationship on desperation, build a relationship with an end in mind. Many marriages fail, not because they should but because of building on a sandy foundation. Jesus invites you today to build upon the Rock. Among many rocks there is a Rock of ages, the knowledge that unveils wisdom. The day you accept Christ you begin to walk in devine wisdom which is brought by the Holy Spirit.

Perfectionism
Expecting either yourself or others to be flawless, leads to dissatisfaction. In life you have to understand that people are dust, they are liable or prone to make mistakes. No matter how much you can develop yourself you should know that the distance between you and God is dust - your human element.

The empowered mindset
Self - agency
Recognizing that you control your beliefs, choices and boundaries. You've got to empower yourself so much that you are able to take control and lead your life well. Before you date someone you have to prioritize yourself, have your own values, know what works and does not work for you. Get to know your immediate needs and how to achieve those needs. Before you engage in that relationship you should know that the relationship doesn't add value to you but it is you who adds value to that relationship.

Abundance mentality
Understanding there's an abundance of opportunities, connections, and lessons to be found. This mindset helps you in knowing that God is your provider Jehovah Jireh You cannot outspend God, He is The river that never runs dry.

Steps to shift your mindset

1. Awareness
Start by noticing your current beliefs about dating. Are they empowering or limiting your scope? If your beliefs are limited - you are bound to be swept from pillar to post, why? you have no room for growth

2.Challenge your beliefs
Question assumptions ('All the good ones are taken', 'I always get rejected', etc.). To be honest with you - you are exactly the picture of your belief system. You cannot confront what you don't know - you have to know what limits you. Just like in a boxing ring, the winner is the boxer that punches blows that matter - you have to aim or target. Assumptions are like stray dogs, they end up hurting innocent people.

3. Reframe experiences
See unsuccessful dates as valuable lessons. Every experience improves your understanding of yourself and what you want. Losing a relationship does not mean you are a failure or you will never make it in another relationship. Your experiences were your learning curve. Experiences shape you, they make you a better person. Perceice hardship as a necessary component for your growth.

4. Celebrate small wins
Ownership means appreciating every step, not just the end goal - a good conversation, genuine self-expression, or a new insight. Reward your good behaviour, incentives probs for more. Never stop celebrating small wins.

DATING LIKE A BOSS!!!

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Relationships should be marked by purity and mutual respect, as outlined in 1 Timothy 5:1-2